I feel like my question is kinda hard to answer, but do you have any advice as to how to put yourself out there with dating these days? I know that online dating seems to be everyone’s go-to these days and it’s a great way to connect with people. But sometimes I find it to be more challenging with the quality of dating. Such as seeking more traditional valued men. Just seeking advice!
Hi Abby! What are your thoughts on taking breaks from dating to focus on self improvement? I want to be the best version of myself for my future partner, but some of my friends think I’m putting too much pressure on myself to be “perfect” before dating again. While I’m not aiming to be perfect (or anywhere near it!), I do want to get more involved in my faith community, build my confidence and get in better shape, and a few other things that I think would make me a better partner. Am I being too rigid to put off dating while working on these things? Thank you! :)
My son is 15months now. For me the newborn phase felt like a crucible. He made me into the mother he needed.
It’s hard to come up with a list without context, but here’s my list of some things that worked during that time: 1. I read a lot. We developed a parenting/caring style that seemed to suit us and we went with it. 2. Accepted my baby’s needs and met them. Not all babies are the same. Mine has been at the higher-need end of the spectrum. I fed him whenever he cried or he seemed to want it even if he fed recently. He cried when not held so I bought several carriers and carried him a lot. We were all way more peaceful as a result. 3. Accepted within days that the sleep training stuff was not for us and we had way more peaceful evenings. He slept nearby. He roused to feed several times at night and we both rested extremely well nonetheless. 4. After an early painful nipple injury, I repeatedly used the lactation consultants available to me, breastfeeding books, and videos to learn a good latch, several comfy positions, treat injuries, work on supply, etc. Silver cups helped immensely. It’s definitely worth it to learn to nurse in public too. 5. Family and close friends who you like having around are great. Some people make things harder. Cooking and cleaning and just having people you trust around is so reassuring. Wish I’d taken more advantage of their offers of help with ordinary things.
Lots of issues go away with time, thank God, but there’s almost always something new going on.
I feel like my question is kinda hard to answer, but do you have any advice as to how to put yourself out there with dating these days? I know that online dating seems to be everyone’s go-to these days and it’s a great way to connect with people. But sometimes I find it to be more challenging with the quality of dating. Such as seeking more traditional valued men. Just seeking advice!
Hi Abby! What are your thoughts on taking breaks from dating to focus on self improvement? I want to be the best version of myself for my future partner, but some of my friends think I’m putting too much pressure on myself to be “perfect” before dating again. While I’m not aiming to be perfect (or anywhere near it!), I do want to get more involved in my faith community, build my confidence and get in better shape, and a few other things that I think would make me a better partner. Am I being too rigid to put off dating while working on these things? Thank you! :)
My son is 15months now. For me the newborn phase felt like a crucible. He made me into the mother he needed.
It’s hard to come up with a list without context, but here’s my list of some things that worked during that time: 1. I read a lot. We developed a parenting/caring style that seemed to suit us and we went with it. 2. Accepted my baby’s needs and met them. Not all babies are the same. Mine has been at the higher-need end of the spectrum. I fed him whenever he cried or he seemed to want it even if he fed recently. He cried when not held so I bought several carriers and carried him a lot. We were all way more peaceful as a result. 3. Accepted within days that the sleep training stuff was not for us and we had way more peaceful evenings. He slept nearby. He roused to feed several times at night and we both rested extremely well nonetheless. 4. After an early painful nipple injury, I repeatedly used the lactation consultants available to me, breastfeeding books, and videos to learn a good latch, several comfy positions, treat injuries, work on supply, etc. Silver cups helped immensely. It’s definitely worth it to learn to nurse in public too. 5. Family and close friends who you like having around are great. Some people make things harder. Cooking and cleaning and just having people you trust around is so reassuring. Wish I’d taken more advantage of their offers of help with ordinary things.
Lots of issues go away with time, thank God, but there’s almost always something new going on.
That's a good point!!