Amen to all of this. I'm 28 and still a virgin and have always been made fun of, talked about, or looked at weirdly when I would tell schoolmates and family proudly in the past that I was still a virgin. It was always the same question asked afterwards, "Why?" Thinking about everything now, it's so sad how many women and men just never understood the importance, beauty, and value of waiting. They still don't today. But waiting to have sex until marriage, for this long, has always been one of the things I've been proud of, not just for myself, but with my relationship with God.
I waited until marriage too ☺️ ok maybe a weird perk here, at least for us haha... and probably tmi... is (not sure how to say this without sounding weird 🤭) we're pretty basic? lol. I mean we don't need anything extra? like we don't need porn or toys (don't get me wrong, if a married couple enjoys "accessories" more power to them) or certain conditions such as if we had just argued 30 minutes prior. it's just satisfying ya know? I worry about young people now being so inundated with porn and Instagram and onlyfans; how their sexuality has to be so "extra"... will they be satisfied with their partner as the years roll by? with monogamy? I think our biggest hope lies in the self-discipline that comes with the spiritual self-discipline of having a relationship with God, it starts there I think, and is a great way to see how valuable you are and that abstinence until marriage is a gift that you give yourself. Great column, Miss Abby 🙂 can't wait to see your sweet baby.
It is wonderful to see this perspective and I truly understand where you are coming from. On the other hand, I have been married before and was only with my ex and the fairy tale never happened for me. The connection was not like this, and I truly envy this experience you have had. As I have mentioned in Book Club, it was an abusive relationship that ended in divorce and Church annulment. My best friend is a widow, she was widowed young ( we always have dark humor about our marital statuses at a young age, sometimes it is laugh or cry!), her husband got a very rare illness and died in a period of three weeks a few years ago. She married him right out of college and her son was only 6 when her husband passed. She is in a serious relationship now and has very mixed feelings about sex with another man, even if that man ends up being her next husband. If anyone has any resources on this topic of dealing with sex " the second time around" they would be much appreciated!
If you're in another relationship it seems that the points that Abby made are still applicable. Although you're not a virgin you can still have standards with your new love that will be just as beautiful and satisfying. Look at Ruth and Boaz! I wish you and your friend wellness. 🙏🏼
I was wondering if you were a virgin in your wedding night,waiting until marriage is vague knowing that there is people who didn’t wait until marriage but take the decision to wait later in life and some didn’t truly wait but just pretended to wait. It is more precise to say remaining virgin until marriage, that being said, great article👍
Amen to all of this. I'm 28 and still a virgin and have always been made fun of, talked about, or looked at weirdly when I would tell schoolmates and family proudly in the past that I was still a virgin. It was always the same question asked afterwards, "Why?" Thinking about everything now, it's so sad how many women and men just never understood the importance, beauty, and value of waiting. They still don't today. But waiting to have sex until marriage, for this long, has always been one of the things I've been proud of, not just for myself, but with my relationship with God.
Great thoughts Abby! I just subscribed!
So glad you enjoyed today's article!! And so happy you're here 😊😊😊
Good for you 💝
I waited until marriage too ☺️ ok maybe a weird perk here, at least for us haha... and probably tmi... is (not sure how to say this without sounding weird 🤭) we're pretty basic? lol. I mean we don't need anything extra? like we don't need porn or toys (don't get me wrong, if a married couple enjoys "accessories" more power to them) or certain conditions such as if we had just argued 30 minutes prior. it's just satisfying ya know? I worry about young people now being so inundated with porn and Instagram and onlyfans; how their sexuality has to be so "extra"... will they be satisfied with their partner as the years roll by? with monogamy? I think our biggest hope lies in the self-discipline that comes with the spiritual self-discipline of having a relationship with God, it starts there I think, and is a great way to see how valuable you are and that abstinence until marriage is a gift that you give yourself. Great column, Miss Abby 🙂 can't wait to see your sweet baby.
I totally know what you mean! It's about being with each other and you don't necessarily need extra stuff to have a great time 🙂
It is wonderful to see this perspective and I truly understand where you are coming from. On the other hand, I have been married before and was only with my ex and the fairy tale never happened for me. The connection was not like this, and I truly envy this experience you have had. As I have mentioned in Book Club, it was an abusive relationship that ended in divorce and Church annulment. My best friend is a widow, she was widowed young ( we always have dark humor about our marital statuses at a young age, sometimes it is laugh or cry!), her husband got a very rare illness and died in a period of three weeks a few years ago. She married him right out of college and her son was only 6 when her husband passed. She is in a serious relationship now and has very mixed feelings about sex with another man, even if that man ends up being her next husband. If anyone has any resources on this topic of dealing with sex " the second time around" they would be much appreciated!
These are heart-wrenching situations ❤️🩹
If you're in another relationship it seems that the points that Abby made are still applicable. Although you're not a virgin you can still have standards with your new love that will be just as beautiful and satisfying. Look at Ruth and Boaz! I wish you and your friend wellness. 🙏🏼
Thank you so much for this article. It’s helpful for me as I am not a virgin but sick of the heart break of guys lying and manipulating to get sex.
I’m now waiting until marriage because I want to know that my man is true to me.
I was wondering if you were a virgin in your wedding night,waiting until marriage is vague knowing that there is people who didn’t wait until marriage but take the decision to wait later in life and some didn’t truly wait but just pretended to wait. It is more precise to say remaining virgin until marriage, that being said, great article👍