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Lady J. Raquelle's avatar

Amen to all of this. I'm 28 and still a virgin and have always been made fun of, talked about, or looked at weirdly when I would tell schoolmates and family proudly in the past that I was still a virgin. It was always the same question asked afterwards, "Why?" Thinking about everything now, it's so sad how many women and men just never understood the importance, beauty, and value of waiting. They still don't today. But waiting to have sex until marriage, for this long, has always been one of the things I've been proud of, not just for myself, but with my relationship with God.

Great thoughts Abby! I just subscribed!

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Tonya Sutter's avatar

I waited until marriage too ☺️ ok maybe a weird perk here, at least for us haha... and probably tmi... is (not sure how to say this without sounding weird 🤭) we're pretty basic? lol. I mean we don't need anything extra? like we don't need porn or toys (don't get me wrong, if a married couple enjoys "accessories" more power to them) or certain conditions such as if we had just argued 30 minutes prior. it's just satisfying ya know? I worry about young people now being so inundated with porn and Instagram and onlyfans; how their sexuality has to be so "extra"... will they be satisfied with their partner as the years roll by? with monogamy? I think our biggest hope lies in the self-discipline that comes with the spiritual self-discipline of having a relationship with God, it starts there I think, and is a great way to see how valuable you are and that abstinence until marriage is a gift that you give yourself. Great column, Miss Abby 🙂 can't wait to see your sweet baby.

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