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Jun 10, 2021Liked by Classically Abby

Two comments! First, I think you are definately illustrating what a favorite priest of mine says, " People think religious people HATE sex and it is totally FALSE. We LOVE sex, We LOVE intimacy, We are CRAZY about sex between husbands and wives. It is a holy act!" Second comment, I know you are posting about the teenager giving her commencement speech about abortion to illustrate a point, but I also feel like the pro-life ideology should include more than just abortion. If we all agree human life is sacred then we should also be strongly opposed to capital punishment, unjust war, and euthanasia. We rarely hear about those three things because people say it is not "innocent life" in these cases. I know God is the proper judge and loves an unborn child just as much as a death row inmate. It seems hard to comprehend, but it is true.

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Jun 10, 2021Liked by Classically Abby

Awwwww I love this. I like that you've talked about this because I think as conservatives we often get called 'prudish' and accused of making sex "shameful" or taboo. Which I think is such a big misconception and is more like an extreme version of the most extreme conservative view. Most of the time the left is so open that anything else WOULD seem prudish or old fashioned. But I like to think modesty is far more attractive when it comes to sex anyway, I actually think that it will get to the point where if so many girls have only fans accounts, the guys will eventually want the one girl who doesn't, because she's intriguing and there's something very attractive about modesty and not being able to read someone right away. I definitely feel what you're saying about mood. I'm not married yet but I know when I'm stressed out, the VERY LAST thing on my mind is thinking about guys. Like, I literally just could not want anything less when I'm feeling anxious and overwrought about something. I'm in a bit of a strange position in that I am waiting till marriage, but a lot of my friends/people around me don't know, and think I've had lots of boyfriends (I don't know why this is, I think its because I get a fair amount of attention from guys and also because most friends haven't known me through my whole life, so the ones who lost contact after school assume I had boyfriends after, and the ones who know me now didn't know me at school). One of my giant hangups is that I just am sooo inexperienced and I worry a guy will be able to tell. Even with things like kissing. In fact kissing scares me probably more lol because it feels like it requires more skill than the natural process of a man and a woman coming together w actual sex. And I don't know how to tell a guy I would date (not found one I like yet) especially because I'm not in a religious community (even though I am religious to some degree by myself). Thank you for this video, I loved it. You're the best, most sweet big sister ever! xoxo

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Unfortunate you have to think about the “gross” comments on other platforms! I personally waited also, and it was a great decision. People get to make other decisions with their own lives, but this is the way to avoid certain complications and consequences. God’s ways are the best ways. This is good advice for those ho may not know what to expect and what is and isn’t normal given what our culture puts out there (garbage misinformation). Glad to be a new subscriber here! Keep on keepin on, Abby.

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This was definitely not a video that you could post on YouTube (yikes!). But so good to hear it talked about so candidly! These are things I wish I had known when I was first married. One more I would add...if it hurts at first, don't panic! The more you do it, the less it hurts. The pain can scare some women into avoiding sex altogether and that can hurt a marriage, because sex is so important! Thanks for the video!

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Love that you were able to cover this topic so openly and candidly. I’ve been married for 6.5 years BH but when I was younger there was no resource like this that spoke about it in such a straightforward manner (except my mom but ew lol have never gotten used to hearing her talk about sex oy), and when you have to rely on societies expectations and ideas about this it’s very very easy to get confused and extremely anxious about what one might think is expected of a woman. It’s unfortunate we live in a world where people would leave anything negative or respond in any negative way to this kind of content, but I hope as time goes on conversations like this will be easier and more commonplace in public spaces. Thank you for your insight and openness. Much love xo

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Hey Abby I really appreciated this post! I’m engaged and am excited to experience that part of my relationship with my future husband! Question about what you meant about internal vs external orgasm?

Also any specific lubricant you would recommend?

Thank you!!

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