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Having Children Is Not A Death Sentence To Your Dreams. But Paxton Smith Has Been Taught Otherwise.

A few days ago, high school valedictorian Paxton Smith gave a speech at her graduation. It wasn’t the speech she had planned to make. Instead, hearing that Governor Greg Abbott had signed into law a bill that prevents abortion after detecting a heartbeat in utero, Ms. Smith secretly changed her speech without permission from her school.

She had something to say:

As we leave high school, we need to make our voices heard. Today I was going to talk about TV and media and content because it’s something that’s very important to me, however, under light of recent events, it feels wrong to talk about anything but what is currently affecting me and millions of other women in this state. Recently, the Heartbeat Bill was passed in Texas. Starting in September, there will be a ban on abortions after six weeks of pregnancy, regardless of whether the pregnancy was a result of rape or incest. Six weeks. That’s all women get. And so before they realize, most of them don’t realize that they’re pregnant by six weeks, so before they have a chance to decide if they are emotionally, physically, and financially stable enough to carry out a full term pregnancy, before they have the chance to decide if they can take on the responsibility of bringing another human being into the world, that decision is made for them by a stranger. A decision that will affect the rest of their lives is made by a stranger.

I have dreams and hopes and ambitions. Every girl graduating today does, and we have spent our entire lives working towards our future, and without our input and without our consent our control over that future has been stripped away from us. I am terrified that if my contraceptives fail, I am terrified that if I am raped, then my hopes and aspirations and dreams and efforts for my future will no longer matter.

I hope that you can feel how gut wrenching that is. I hope you can feel how dehumanizing it is to have the autonomy over your own body taken away from you. And I’m talking about this today, on a day as important as this, on a day honoring 12 years of hard academic work, on a day where we are all gathered together, on a day where you are most inclined to listen to a voice like mine, a woman’s voice, to tell you that this is a problem, and it’s a problem that cannot wait. And I can not give up this platform to promote complacency and peace when there is a war on my body and a war on my rights, a war on the rights of your mothers, a war on the rights of your sisters, a war on the rights of your daughters. We cannot stay silent.

After watching this young woman speak, I felt so sorry for her. The lies that women have been sold, day after day, year after year, makes it so a young woman had to express her fear and distress publicly in front of her entire school.

Let’s break down what Ms. Smith had to say.

Ms. Smith starts off by explaining that the Heartbeat Bill, a bill which prevents abortion after the detection of a heartbeat in utero which can be as early as six weeks, would stop abortions in the case of rape and incest. For those who don’t know, six weeks along in pregnancy is actually more like four weeks (the counting begins from a woman’s last period, not from the time she ovulated), so some women may not even know they are pregnant.

I would guess Ms. Smith is bringing up abortion in these rare cases in order to make the bill seem awful and unreasonable – however, abortions in the case of rape make up 1% of all abortions and abortions in the case of incest make up less than 0.5% of all abortions. The vast majority of abortions are unrelated to these situations. This is not meant to make light of rape and incest – it’s only meant to show that the pro-choice argument often leans on this tiny percentage of abortions to justify abortions in toto.

In the cases of rape and incest, we must be compassionate and caring, provide support and love. But babies should not suffer for the crime of their fathers. The infant in the womb is still a child – and its life does not pay for the horrible act that was committed.

She then continues by saying that women are only given six weeks to figure out whether or not they want to “keep” the baby inside of their womb. No matter what situation a woman is in, she only has six weeks to decide – and then the decision is taken away from her by a “stranger.”

Ms. Smith has been taught to think that a growing infant’s life only has value if the mother decides it does. I’m not sure she even understands what she’s saying. A fetal heartbeat that can be detected – a heartbeat, a signal of a living, human life – means nothing? It shows nothing? Doesn’t a heartbeat prove that there is, indeed, a baby growing inside you?

But no. Women have been taught to believe that even a heartbeat doesn’t prove that an infant baby is anything more than a bundle of cells, a parasite. And women have been taught that their choice comes after a baby is conceived, when in fact 99% of the time, they get to make the decision before: wait to have sex until you are married. Done. Problem solved.

Then comes the most affecting part of her speech. Ms. Smith declares that her future has been ripped away from her because she doesn’t have access to an abortion after a fetal heartbeat is detected. What have we taught our young women? Since when do children destroy our lives rather than give them meaning? It horrifies me that women have been taught that any ambition in their lives must come from work and that children are only a hindrance. Women have turned against their own bodies, demanding they stop producing the miracle of life, so that they can have their “dream jobs.”

Of course, Ms. Smith in the same sentence compares conception from rape to conception from her contraceptive failing. One results from a tragedy; the other results from irresponsibility. Any time any women has sex, there’s a chance she could conceive. That’s why women shouldn’t have sex with a man unless she wants him to be the father of her children. Once again, problem solved. But Ms. Smith has been taught to think of both situations as a tragedy – both would result in an unwanted child, and in her mind, one that simply doesn’t deserve to live.

Ms. Smith continues by saying how dehumanized she feels and how this is a war on women everywhere. Unfortunately, she doesn’t seem to realize how ironic her statements truly are. She feels dehumanized? How do you think the literal infant inside a woman’s womb feels when people call it a bundle of cells, when people justify its murder for their own convenience? And if this is a war on anyone, it’s a war on the children who were never born, whose own mothers turned against them and ripped them limb from limb.

I do not blame Ms. Smith. She’s a product of a narrative that has taught her to fear children and fear her own womanliness. She has been lied to that the most important part of her is her career aspiration, not her moral fortitude.

Now, after all the lies, it’s our time to spread the truth.

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