I've gotten to a point where I schedule and plan downtime and time to play with my puppy and just sit and relax on the couch instead of always doing something. It makes a huge difference. I have found that even big tasks don't seem that big any more because I no longer use relaxing and downtime as a "reward" for completing tasks. I take time when I need it and I work on what needs to get done when I can. My fiance and I also have a rule that I don't do any housework (except the very basics like putting our plates away after dinner and stuff like that) when he's home in the evenings or when he has days off. Partially because, as a housewife, I keep house as my job so I need time off as well, but mostly because we want to be able to cherish the time that we have together, and we can't do that if I'm running around doing laundry or washing windows or whatever I manage to find to do!
I think that hustle culture has made people feel like there is no value in just being with the people you love and being happy in that moment, but there is SO much value to those calm, quiet moments together!
Thank you for this so much, because I feel the same with hustle culture. i have an illness I developed following a burnout, so its really important for me to rest, but I find it so difficult and don't feel like I am "enough" because I constantly compare myself against 'healthy' people. Thank you for always being so lovely, your emails always find me at the best time.
I used to struggle with seeing my downtime as a treasure, but now I love taking time to do small things with great love, as Mother Teresa said.
I've gotten to a point where I schedule and plan downtime and time to play with my puppy and just sit and relax on the couch instead of always doing something. It makes a huge difference. I have found that even big tasks don't seem that big any more because I no longer use relaxing and downtime as a "reward" for completing tasks. I take time when I need it and I work on what needs to get done when I can. My fiance and I also have a rule that I don't do any housework (except the very basics like putting our plates away after dinner and stuff like that) when he's home in the evenings or when he has days off. Partially because, as a housewife, I keep house as my job so I need time off as well, but mostly because we want to be able to cherish the time that we have together, and we can't do that if I'm running around doing laundry or washing windows or whatever I manage to find to do!
I think that hustle culture has made people feel like there is no value in just being with the people you love and being happy in that moment, but there is SO much value to those calm, quiet moments together!
Thank you for this so much, because I feel the same with hustle culture. i have an illness I developed following a burnout, so its really important for me to rest, but I find it so difficult and don't feel like I am "enough" because I constantly compare myself against 'healthy' people. Thank you for always being so lovely, your emails always find me at the best time.
PS I adore that you call your son Mr Baby