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Julia's avatar

Do you know the song Let them Be Little by Billy Dean? It says, "Give them hope, give them praise, give them love everyday. Let them cry, let them giggle, O let them be little." When I hear the lyrics, I think about helping raise children in my community. And these are jobs that I simply enjoy doing.

Motherhood is very self-sacrificial of your time and energy. But they make a world of difference to a little one and it is fun! And there can still be a balance of taking care of your own projects.

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Gwynne's avatar

So, here's the thing... and it may not be well accepted in 2022 because we can't hold two seemingly contradictory opinions at once (for whatever reason). Personally, while I've never wanted to be a mother and am a selfish woman who focuses on her career, I applaud and admire classic women who have children, love them, and raise them to be good citizens.

I'm VERY aware of the fact that I could never do that. Whether you're a housewife, homeschooling kids, or have kids + career (work remotely), kudos to you for doing something I'm not strong enough or selfless enough to do. Hey, I own it. And I'll give credit where credit is due.

So, I don't think the problem is women like me (women who don't want kids and want to focus on something else). I think the problem is women like me who feel the need to impose their own beliefs on everyone else who chooses another path.

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