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Re SAHM - There’s a joke that goes: “What do you call a guy who’s last in his medical school class?…. Doctor”

I think most employers want to see a degree. I doubt many care your GPA or honorifics. Sadly many employers use a BA/BS like a high school diploma now. Regardless of qualifications or experience. So get the degree, do what you need to do without going into debt and live your life.

Then, if you have to/want to re-enter the workforce just network your butt off and have an pre-rehearsed answer for the gap in your resume. You don’t need a detailed explanation - just short and sweet that you can easily repeat and then steer the conversation to your knowledge and qualifications.

You just need one employer to say yes. Unlike your husband, you’re not marrying your employer. If it doesn’t work out, you use what you learned in that job to get another one.. and this time you are already employed when you’re searching.

On the other side, I used a lot of the executive functioning skills I developed in college as a SAHM. Planning, prepping, executing, all things I honed in college. Budgeting, finances - learned in college living in cheap apartments trying not to incur student loan debt. Saying no to things, I learned I college because I realized I’m not a social butterfly and need my space sometimes.

Since leaving college, I realized learning doesn’t stop. If I don’t know something (like lesson planning/curriculum to be a homeschool mom from the first poster) I research/analyze the heck out of it - also something I learned in school (though not just college).

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Abby! Love your idea! I think it might even be a good idea to print the pictures out at Walgreens or CVS! It’s super cheap and cute! Love this subscription

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Re photo albums - I use Blurb and print out a high quality photo book. I don’t save money here since I only print one per year. We’re talking high quality paper, lay flat book. I do not have time to print out and photo scrapbook. Bless the people who do. It’s amazing creativity there, but I don’t have that gift. Any photo I use in a photo book I save in a file on my computer (with cloud back up) so if I need to print it later I can go to the specific year and find it.

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Just catching up on this episode. You inspired me last year to start making annual photo albums but I did it by printing out the photos. I don't think one way is necessarily better than the other but I like the creative element of having to physically arrange the photos and handwrite any notes about them.

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The only thing I got out of that was, learn how to run a household...how do I run a household? Would be nice if you could put down some recommendations or make a video on it yourself.

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I think this is an important question but sadly often the answer is it’s different for everyone. How I run things won’t be the same as how you run things. What I’ve tried to do is learn from those around me - what I see in interactions and what I learn talking about the topic. I also read a lot of things online. I also don’t try to change everything at once. I focus on one problem area and find a good enough solution and move to the next.

Abby - it might be helpful to do a roundtable with some women from your community to see how they handle different aspects of the house.

For Emily I’m happy to share what I do for various things. I’m not on socials so let me know here if you want to connect.

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Yeah for sure I would love to connect...how will we be in contact? Im on almost all the socials lol

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Thanks, I just sent an email...let me know if you didn;t get it

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