Aug 7, 2023·edited Aug 7, 2023Liked by Classically Abby
It is quite weird that people say 'you look amazing, you don't even look like you're pregnant!', as if looking pregnant and looking good are mutually exclusive. Very odd. Personally when I've approached a friend or relative about their pregnancy my comments tend to be along the lines of 'oh I hope the symptoms aren't being too harsh.' or 'what are you most looking forward to when the baby is born?' I hope those are better!
Hi! Do we have a date for book club? Depending on when you host it I may or may not be able to come, so just need to decide if I need to get the book! I read the Arthur Pepper book and really enjoyed it, such a touching story! Shabbat shalom!
It's so ridiculous to hear someone say I don't look pregnant 🤦♀️ like, I'm 22 weeks, and my very round belly is clearly not normal for my body, what would make you say that I don't look pregnant?
I will disagree slightly though; I don't think this is "body positivity." I think this is more closely related to anti-motherhood and anti-family sentiments. They see pregnancy as a negative, and so they want to assure you that you don't look like you're "suffering" from being pregnant. It's disgusting, but I see it all the time.
"Oh you're so lucky you don't have kids, it's awful what it does to your body."
"Oh I don't want kids, I don't want to put my body through that."
"I don't want to ruin my body by having children. Maybe I'll just adopt."
They are so quick to condemn pregnancy. It's gross.
Pregnancy is a beautiful, wonderful experience. I have loved every minute of it, even when I was super nauseous and couldn't eat. I feel so good, better than I've ever felt. And yet I still have people somehow managing to spin this incredible experience as though it's somehow a negative thing.
"Oh just wait, it gets worse."
"Wait until you start showing, it feels awful."
"Hope you're ready for the mood swings and bloating."
I really hate hearing about all the negatives.
And the alcoholics around me!! I never realized how reliant everyone is until I got pregnant and everyone started talking about how awful it is that I can't drink anymore 🤦♀️
I've never been a big drinker to begin with, and I've always preferred drinks with less alcohol and more flavour, so I haven't missed it *at all*. But people are acting like I've lost some incredible thing... It makes no sense.
Okay, I'm gonna stop ranting now 😅
TLDR; I really love being pregnant and I hate the negativity that people bring to it
Tess I'm so glad you're loving being pregnant!!! I'm just now starting to feel like I could be up for it again... It's AMAZING what our bodies do to to help bring new life into this world! Even though I'm maybe squishier than I was pre-pregnancy, and sometimes I still pee a little if I sneeze, I appreciate and love my body SO much more now because it allowed for my daughter to be here. I agree with you I didn't miss alcohol at ALL, and I still don't really. Hubby and I had our first alcohol night out for a good friend's birthday since before I was pregnant, and it was fun, but just as like a special occasion thing. I can't believe that in college I used to go out drinking almost every weekend even though I never really liked it. Praying for continued health and wellness for you and your baby!
It is quite weird that people say 'you look amazing, you don't even look like you're pregnant!', as if looking pregnant and looking good are mutually exclusive. Very odd. Personally when I've approached a friend or relative about their pregnancy my comments tend to be along the lines of 'oh I hope the symptoms aren't being too harsh.' or 'what are you most looking forward to when the baby is born?' I hope those are better!
These are definitely better! Hearing people get excited about your baby is soooo wonderful. Pregnant mommas love talking about our babies 🥰❤️
Hi! Do we have a date for book club? Depending on when you host it I may or may not be able to come, so just need to decide if I need to get the book! I read the Arthur Pepper book and really enjoyed it, such a touching story! Shabbat shalom!
It's so ridiculous to hear someone say I don't look pregnant 🤦♀️ like, I'm 22 weeks, and my very round belly is clearly not normal for my body, what would make you say that I don't look pregnant?
I will disagree slightly though; I don't think this is "body positivity." I think this is more closely related to anti-motherhood and anti-family sentiments. They see pregnancy as a negative, and so they want to assure you that you don't look like you're "suffering" from being pregnant. It's disgusting, but I see it all the time.
"Oh you're so lucky you don't have kids, it's awful what it does to your body."
"Oh I don't want kids, I don't want to put my body through that."
"I don't want to ruin my body by having children. Maybe I'll just adopt."
They are so quick to condemn pregnancy. It's gross.
Pregnancy is a beautiful, wonderful experience. I have loved every minute of it, even when I was super nauseous and couldn't eat. I feel so good, better than I've ever felt. And yet I still have people somehow managing to spin this incredible experience as though it's somehow a negative thing.
"Oh just wait, it gets worse."
"Wait until you start showing, it feels awful."
"Hope you're ready for the mood swings and bloating."
I really hate hearing about all the negatives.
And the alcoholics around me!! I never realized how reliant everyone is until I got pregnant and everyone started talking about how awful it is that I can't drink anymore 🤦♀️
I've never been a big drinker to begin with, and I've always preferred drinks with less alcohol and more flavour, so I haven't missed it *at all*. But people are acting like I've lost some incredible thing... It makes no sense.
Okay, I'm gonna stop ranting now 😅
TLDR; I really love being pregnant and I hate the negativity that people bring to it
Tess I'm so glad you're loving being pregnant!!! I'm just now starting to feel like I could be up for it again... It's AMAZING what our bodies do to to help bring new life into this world! Even though I'm maybe squishier than I was pre-pregnancy, and sometimes I still pee a little if I sneeze, I appreciate and love my body SO much more now because it allowed for my daughter to be here. I agree with you I didn't miss alcohol at ALL, and I still don't really. Hubby and I had our first alcohol night out for a good friend's birthday since before I was pregnant, and it was fun, but just as like a special occasion thing. I can't believe that in college I used to go out drinking almost every weekend even though I never really liked it. Praying for continued health and wellness for you and your baby!
Thank you! 🙏 I'm constantly amazed by things things our bodies do to grow our little precious babies, too!