The Troll Comment I Hate The MOST
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The Troll Comment I Hate The MOST
Hello friends and welcome to another beautiful day in the Classically Abby neighborhood! I sing the Mr. Roger’s song to my son every morning as I get him out of his crib and open the windows, so I thought I’d share it with you all, too. I hope you’re all doing amazing. Did you have a nice weekend? We had our anatomy scan on Friday, and baby is looking perfect! Everything is healthy, he’s growing well, I’m growing well, and we are so grateful to God for all the good news.
On Sabbath, we went to a friend’s house for lunch with a group of families that we are close to and we spent six hours there! Mr. Baby played with the other kids and had a great time, and we got to catch up with our friends who we hadn’t seen for nearly a month. I love Sabbath for that reason - everyone is meant to simply focus on one another without any distractions.
We closed out the weekend with an incredibly hot summer’s day which we spent doing a little bit of waterplay with our son, fitting in our exercise regimens while he napped, and then taking him to an indoor play gym near us. I’ve been doing some recon at a bunch of different play gyms in our area, and it has been so interesting to see! I’ve found that we really enjoy Montessori-style, wooden play gyms that have a ton to play with rather than things to do. When we went to the play gym this Sunday, for example, it was much more circus-like. The problem with indoor gyms like that is when you simply have things to do, you do it once, and you’re done! The great thing about wooden toys is that you can play with them in a bunch of different ways and never get bored. In the evening, my mom came by while my husband and I went to dinner, which was absolutely lovely, and then we put our son to bed and spent some much needed husband-wife time together. All in all, it was a wonderful weekend!
In today’s article, I really want to talk about the troll comment I hate the MOST. Often, when I post about motherhood and its importance, I get a ton of comments accusing me of hypocrisy. "You say this but you also have a career that isn’t being a mother…so which one is it?” is a real-life primary example. “How can you say that motherhood is the most important thing if you have a job?”
The answer isn’t complicated, but unfortunately, for those who feel they’ve caught me out, I think I need to address it. It’s so ridiculous to assume that I, who speaks out about prioritizing motherhood over everything else, would be doing this as a grift rather than living by the values I espouse so strongly. So let me break it down.
First of all, there’s nothing wrong with women contributing financially to their families. As I’ve said before, the highest priority is the children being provided for - and if that means mom and dad both have to work, then that is what’s necessary. But even outside of these more difficult circumstances, if a mom can fit a job or career into her schedule without detracting from her children’s lives and household duties, then why shouldn’t she? If she can help cover the cost of bills or pursue something she enjoys, there’s no reason why she shouldn’t.
Second, people make all sort of assumptions about what my daily life looks like and how I produce the content that I do. Those assumptions? I can guarantee they’re wrong. I work about eight hours a week - two hours, four days a week while my son naps and/or my mother comes by to help for about an hour. If my son is awake, I’m taking care of him. After he’s asleep for the night, I am taking care of my home and spending time with my husband.
As for my public speaking engagements, I am gone for the absolute shortest amount of time possible. Recently, when I traveled to Virginia to speak, I flew out in the morning and flew back that night so I could spend the least amount of time away from my son. As well, when I’m traveling, my baby is spending quality time with his father and his grandparents. He’s always with people who love and care for his well-being and who appreciate the time they get to spend with him.
My priority is and always will be my faith, family, and community. Motherhood is of utmost importance in my life and I know the absolute depth of my responsibility to shepherd my son. If my work were to overshadow my most important role, I would need to take a step back and re-evaluate. But I do think the message I’m sharing needs to be out there. And if I can share it without it coming at the cost of my family’s functioning, I am proud to be able to do so.
Book Club Is TOMORROW!
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I can understand why this comment would frustrate you, but you also do not owe any of us, and especially not trolls, an explanation of your choices!
I don’t see a time, is it 8:15?