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PLUS: Today, Sex Is Cheap. And Who Does It Hurt? WOMEN.
Today, Sex Is Cheap. And Who Does It Hurt? WOMEN.
Hello my friends, and welcome to another edition of the Classically Abby newsletter! Before we get into today’s exclusive article, make sure to scroll down so you can participate in my livestream Q&A tomorrow night as well as listen to my appearance on my brother’s bonus hour.
We recently read Cheap Sex for the Classically Abby book club, and wow. It’s eye-opening. If you weren’t able to read it then, I highly recommend reading it now. But the biggest takeaway? That the “female empowerment” the Left claims as their calling card is actually making pretty much everything WORSE for women.
Here’s why.
Cheap sex is the idea that economically sex has become easier and easier to acquire. Historically, women were the gatekeepers of sex because everyone recognized the inherent link between sex and pregnancy. Therefore, it was important to save sex for marriage so women could guarantee they would have the support of a husband when children naturally came along.
Then came the advent of readily available birth control.
All of a sudden, sex and pregnancy weren’t inherently linked. Now, sex could be purely for physical pleasure, undertaken frivolously and without care. And if there did happen to be a real consequence, i.e. an unplanned pregnancy or contraceptive failure? Well, legalized abortion was there for that.
(I’ll interrupt myself here to say that I don’t think every sex act must be solely aimed at pregnancy. But sex and pregnancy are inextricably linked and viewing sex as entirely consequence-free is not only wrong but dangerous, because it causes people to “make sure” it is consequence-free through things like abortion. This mentality leads to viewing sex “just for fun” as the norm and pregnancy as a weird anomaly that should happen strictly when planned, which causes women to view their “unintended” unborn children as a problem to be dealt with. Of course, that leads to a demand for abortions.)
When that happened, women found themselves at a crossroads. Would they continue to keep the traditional approach to sex as part of a committed relationship, or would they dive into their “liberation from biology,” embrace demoting sex to mere pleasure, and call that “female empowerment?”
I think we all know what happened.
Today, women consistently sleep with men they have no connection with. They experience low sexual satisfaction because they are aren’t having meaningful sex with an attentive, devoted partner. And women are getting married later and later for a few reasons: 1) they don’t “need” marriage anymore from a money standpoint because they are economically stable on their own (good or bad, that’s just a fact), and 2) because men don’t need to get married to have sex, there’s no impetus on them to propose. As women wait longer to get married, they also wait longer to have children and face problems with infertility.
And women aren’t happy with these outcomes.
Women want to get married and have families; they want to have meaningful sex with someone who will care about them and care for them; they want to feel secure and stable as they enter their thirties rather than feeling unsure if they’ll ever find a husband.
And yet, women buy into the marketing fantasy that cheap sex must be “empowering.” They believe the lie that they can and should engage in meaningless sex because being able to act on your impulses is freedom. But this freedom isn’t free. It costs. When women give up sex easily, they lose out on what they really want - good, upstanding men who will provide and the unimaginable joy of their children’s smiles, giggles, and love. Sadly, this “freedom” doesn’t just bear costs for the women who run after it. Those women who do choose to wait until marriage have to contend with the warping of male standards and expectations due to the cheap sex offered by feminists, which undercuts them at every turn and puts powerful pressure on them to “conform.”
Now, let’s be clear. Men shouldn’t have sex before marriage. Women shouldn’t have sex before marriage. This isn’t to say that men should do whatever they want. But as I have said so many times, women are the backbone of great societies and set the standards. If we don’t stand up and provide a moral framework for ourselves and our men, everything falls apart. We need to the recognize the power we have and the great responsibility that comes with it. We have to stand up for ourselves and what we deserve.
Appearance On My Brother’s Show!
It was so much fun to appear on the bonus hour of my brother’s podcast today! We talked about pregnancy and being pro-life. Plus, I got to share pictures of our newest ultrasound! Make sure to check it out here.
LIVESTREAM Q&A: Ask Me All Of Your Questions!
Hello, classic crew premium subscribers! Tomorrow (12/8) at 6:30 pm EST I’ll be doing my monthly livestream Q&A on YouTube - but I’ll only be answering questions from YOU, the people who have access to my exclusive content here on Substack.
If you have any questions for me, feel free to ask in the comments below! And if you have any more personal questions that you would like to keep anonymous, send them to my email at askclassicallyabby@gmail.com.
IN CASE YOU MISSED IT: This Month's Book Club Selection!
I’m excited to share this month’s book club selection! I thought A Christmas Carol would be perfect for the holiday season and it’s a classic read. I can’t wait to hear your what you guys think in our monthly discussion, which will be NEXT week!
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This is a really good summation of the main point that Regnerus makes in "Cheap Sex". His book was definitely an eye-opening (if depressing, lol) read for me.