ANNOUNCING: This Month's Book Club Selection!
PLUS: How To Get ANGRY As A Classic Woman
ANNOUNCING: This Month's Book Club Selection!
I’m excited to share this month’s book club selection! This book came out in 2017 and it looks fascinating. I want to alternate fiction with non-fiction, so I think this will be a great read. You can purchase it at the link above!
How To Get ANGRY As A Classic Woman
Hello classic crew! Time for another exclusive article in the Classically Abby newsletter! This week I want to talk about anger - I personally have always struggled with that emotion. Anger doesn’t come naturally to me. For a long time, anger used to mean crying in frustration. It scared me. It made me feel out of control, and so I avoided it altogether. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize that anger is actually very important.
Sometimes, anger can tell you when something is unacceptable. It can show you what’s right or wrong and how you should expect to be treated. Repressing anger can lead to depressive feelings because you’re squashing an emotion that needs to be felt in order to learn something. Anger can sometimes help us recognize what we should not be willing to put up with.
But anger isn’t always justified. Anger can be used to control others, or it can be unwarranted. When anger becomes a common response to other people’s actions, rather than a rarely felt feeling that is useful at the right time, it might be time to examine where it comes from.
Often, anger can prevent people from forming strong relationships. If you get angry all the time, you probably aren’t giving people the benefit of the doubt. You may be assuming the worst of someone who has nothing but good intentions. On the receiving end, having someone get angry at you consistently is upsetting and exhausting. There is often no good response to someone who has hit a peak of rage.
So today, I want to share how to get angry as a classic woman. Anger is not off-limits; it just needs to be put in its proper place.
Examine where it’s coming from. If anger is something you struggle with, the first step is to try and understand where it’s coming from. Often, anger is something that has roots in your childhood or in your past. If you saw a parent consistently responding in anger, you may have the same impulse. If you grew up in a situation where anger was never allowed, you may repress it out of habit. Figuring out when your relationship to anger began will inform how you move forward and help you recognize your bad habits so you can begin to change.
Learn your triggers. Sometimes, anger can be triggered by specific situations. Try and pinpoint what those situations are so that you can learn to control your anger before it gets to a breaking point. If, for example, you find that you get angry when you feel like you’re not being heard, take a deep breath. Pause and recognize that the person across from you likely has no bad intentions. Then you can calmly explain that you’re feeling frustrated…and end up having a great conversation!
Keep your cool. Yelling and screaming is not classic. Learning how to express your anger in a calm and collected way will not only be better for you and your health, but it will improve communication in all of your relationships. If you can express the reason behind your anger without actually being angry, you’ve made lemonade out of lemons. The whole point of anger is to understand what it’s stemming from - so if you can do that, then you don’t actually have to be angry. To use your anger effectively, keep cool. And in doing so, you’ll stay classic.
Don’t quash it; understand it. Anger shouldn’t be repressed or ignored. Sometimes when I’ve felt really down and didn’t know why, with a bit of self-reflection I’ve realized that I’m actually deeply angry about something that I didn’t want to think about. Once I’ve dug that up, I can start the healing process. Understanding your anger will give you power over it!
If you’re really struggling with your anger, therapy is always a great option. It can give you the tools to deal with your feelings and learn from them. I think it’s important to remember that anger isn’t bad. It simply has a time, a place, and a better way to express it!
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