"ACTUALLY Useful Dating Advice"
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Hello classic crew and happy Tuesday! I hope you are doing well and I hope you enjoyed yesterday’s podcast. It was something a little different for The Classic (Girl’s) Guide, but the topic of transgenderism is so relevant right now, especially in its relation to young women, that I was excited to be able to share it with you all. If you enjoyed it, make sure to share it with others so that we can spread Helena’s message.
You might be wondering about the title of today’s newsletter. Sometimes, I’ll visit women’s magazine websites to get inspiration for my content. Why? Because women’s magazines nowadays advise women to make terrible choices. Primarily, they encourage the “you do you” mentality that leads women down the absolute worst path. Looking at them is good inspiration for giving women advice that will actually help them.
Well, on my search today I visited Cosmopolitan and came across the heading “Actually Useful Dating Advice.” These were the headlines underneath:
It’s insane to think dating columns about disgusting sexual escapades are considered “actually useful dating advice” in 2022. Imagine a young woman trying to learn how to date in a way that would lead to any form of lasting happiness…and she comes across this. What lesson do you think Cosmo wants her to take away?
The answer: “Sex is the most important part of not only dating, but your life as a whole. The pursuit of sexual pleasure, the demand to be desired - that is of the utmost importance. Anything else in life is simply secondary. And if the sex you have isn’t as good as you had hoped, it can’t be because sex on its own is meaningless and less enjoyable. It must be because you’re doing it wrong.”
Instead of taking dating more seriously, saving sex for marriage, and enjoying sex because it’s with the right person and for the best purpose, Cosmo and other women’s magazines will encourage you to leave behind the sexual mores that society was built upon. You aren’t enjoying random one night stands with strangers? Try sleeping with five people in one night. You aren’t enjoying orgies? Try building a sex room in your own home.
The truth is very different from the advice these magazines offer: sex is only important in the context of a loving and meaningful relationship. It’s a beautiful way to bring a couple together, to express love in a physical way, and to bring a new life into the world. Without these things, sex is like eating a really greasy sandwich. It tastes good in the moment but leaves you feeling guilty afterward when you realize how empty it truly was.
We live in a culture that idolizes sex for its own sake. If you don’t have a “good sex life,” you aren’t even living. A woman or man who hasn’t had sex because he/she is waiting till marriage is considered to be living a life that is “less than.” This worldview’s fundamental mistake is that it insists sex is worth having even if it’s with the wrong person and even if it has no meaning at all. That is simply not true.
Dating advice that is actually useful has nothing to do with this pathetic sex-obsessed mentality. If I were offering dating advice, this is what I’d title the above articles:
Can We Bring Back Realizing That One-Night Stands Are A Waste Of Time, Pls?
The Night Our Dating Diarist Enjoyed A Quiet Night At Home While She Waited For The Right Guy.
Here’s How To *Actually* Build Your Own Ikea Furniture So You Can Help Your Future Husband Around The House.
I hope that young women realize that sex is so much more than having it in the back of a car or having it with as many people as possible in one night or having it in a creepy sex room in your house. Because sex is beautiful - but only when it’s given the respect it deserves.
What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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I wish I had learnt this a long time ago...if you could give advice for a non virgins on how they can avoid having sex with the person they are dating, that would be great.
Example, not having the person come to your place and dont go to their place - is some great advice - more please.
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